5 Tips to Improve Emotional Intelligence
What Does it Mean to be Successful?
Success is a subjective term. Most people hear successful and immediately think wealthy. But everyone has their OWN version of what it means to be successful in their own life. But in order to BE successful (any type of successful), it takes a lot more than just pushing yourself. Hustle culture is REAL. And while there is some truth to being able to push yourself, that’s only PART of the equation. You shouldn't have to feel like you're white knuckling it in order to achieve your goals.
If you just keep pushing without balance, you WILL burn out.
You may get one aspect of what you are pushing for, but it will come with a cost, whether it’s your health, your relationships, or not being able to sustain what you worked so hard to build.
Individuals who are TRULY successful are not just self aware, but aware of those around them as well. This is the core of emotional intelligence.
5 Ways to Develop Emotional Intelligence:
Get Curious
Getting curious about what’s going on within yourself can be a key to open yourself up to your emotional temperature. Be HONEST with yourself, even if you don’t like it. It may a door you open to the past or some fears you have brought with you to your current state- the truth is there to uncover and you can use this to
Ask Others
Asking for honest feedback from people who are truly on your side can give you a different perspective than the one you have your focus on currently. Your support team will want you to succeed and checking in with them can result in reflecting on your truth (even if that feedback may be hard to hear).
Regulate your Own Emotions
Learning how to regulate your own emotions by not avoiding or overreacting to them can bring your awareness to a new level. You can start feel them instead of hiding them. Once you learn how to acknowledge and feel through your emotions a sense of clarity can build within you.
Increase your awareness of the other
Being able to understand’s someone else’s perspective doesn’t mean you have to agree with them. It just means you’re getting curious about their experience (which can also help them do the same for you)
Be Kind to YOU
Being kind to yourself when there are bumps in the road can allow you to navigate the present with a sharper mindful awareness. Give yourself credit when you are starting to regulate your emotions.
Building emotional intelligence is a journey, and every journey has its ups and down. Be proud of the small wins and overcoming the small obstacles that come your way. In order to get where you want to go, you also have to understand where you’ve been. So if the past is affecting your present and future, then a therapist can help.
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