In honor of Father’s Day, I felt it best to share the best advice and life lessons I’ve received from my father. My father passed away in July 2015, after a long battle with Multiple Sclerosis and related complications. It's never easy to lose a parent, and to do before you even turn 30 years old is a challenge to say the least.
When my Dad first passed away, I was able take some time and truly meditate on my life with my him. To focus not on his passing, but on his life and our life together, as well as all of the amazing lessons that he taught me. I didn’t realize it back then, but those life lessons really shaped me into the person, and the therapist, that I am today.
As a psychotherapist, my mission is to help others find their own inner peace and live a life that they desire. Throughout the different approaches I use with clients, mindfulness is at the core. The core mindfulness principles that I teach to my clients include acceptance and compassion, which can then lead to the changing of maladaptive thoughts and behaviors.
I didn’t realize at the time, but those core principles of acceptance and compassion were instilled in me by my Dad.
When I was younger, I would often talk to my Dad about my experiences and interactions with others: someone that upset me, someone acting in a certain way that I didn’t understand, or someone’s values not lining up with mine.
I would always ask “Why?”, “Why does this happen?”, “Why did that person say that?”, “How could they do that?”, etc. Throughout these conversations, my Dad gave me one of th