HOW STRUCTURE, UNDERSTANDING, AND CHOICES HELP
The first question most parents of a child with autism will ask me is “How do I best communicate with my child?” My response is that we first have to take into account that children communicate through behavior, both the behavior they exhibit and the behavior they observe. While true for most children, this is even more true with children of autism.
Once we focus on behavior as the communication tool, we realize the question shifts. “Why is that behavior occurring?” becomes the main question. We shift our attitude toward the child to one of understanding, and perhaps even curiosity. Your child will immediately appreciate your attempt at trying to see the world through their eyes, for their view is very different.If it is possible to use a sense of mindfulness and calm when a troubling behavior appears, more understanding is likely to develop. This does not mean you will need to tolerate the behavior, but understanding it will help devise the solution. It can be extremely difficult to not