For the greater part of some 300,000 years our species has existed, the evolution of self-defensive anger is one of the reasons we have in fact existed for this long. Being able to fight back and flee where necessary to ensure survival has offered us an advantage over species who perhaps remain immobilized in the face of a threat. However, an even more integral part of our evolutionary history has been the deeply ingrained desire to connect emotionally with others. If the bes