In the world of therapy, particularly within the Internal Family Systems (IFS) model, the concept of "self-energy" plays a crucial role in healing and personal growth. As a licensed mental health counselor, I’ve seen how understanding self-energy can empower individuals on their journey to self-discovery and healing. Let’s explore what self-energy is, the eight essential qualities it embodies, and how it interacts with the various parts of ourselves.
What is Self-Energy?
In IFS, we view the mind as made up of various "parts," each with its own thoughts, feelings, and roles. These parts often arise from our experiences and can include protective aspects that shield us from pain, as well as vulnerable parts that hold our wounds. However, beneath these parts lies our true essence—our Self. This essence is what we refer to as "self-energy."
Self-energy is characterized by an innate sense of compassion, curiosity, and calmness. It is the guiding force that helps us navigate our internal landscape, fostering healing and integration among our parts.
The Eight C's of Self-Energy
Self-energy embodies eight key qualities, often referred to as the “8 C’s”:
Calm: A sense of inner peace and tranquility that helps soothe our emotional storms.
Curiosity: An open-minded and inquisitive attitude toward our experiences, allowing us to explore our inner world without judgment.
Compassion: A deep sense of understanding and kindness toward ourselves and our parts, creating a safe space for healing.
Clarity: The ability to see things clearly, free from the distortions of fear or trauma, which helps us understand our thoughts and feelings more fully.
Courage: The bravery to face difficult emotions and experiences, empowering us to take steps toward healing.
Connectedness: A feeling of being grounded and connected to ourselves and others, reinforcing the importance of relationships in our healing journey.
Creativity: The ability to approach problems and challenges with innovative solutions, allowing for new ways of thinking and being.
Confidence: A sense of self-assurance that comes from understanding our value and worth, enabling us to navigate life with a positive outlook.
How Self-Energy Interacts with Parts
Self-energy serves as the compassionate leader that can engage with our various parts. When we are in touch with our self-energy, we can approach our parts with curiosity and compassion rather than fear or judgment. This interaction is vital for healing, as it helps us to:
Listen to Our Parts:
When we connect with our self-energy, we can listen to our parts’ concerns and needs. This understanding fosters healing, allowing the protective parts to relax and the vulnerable parts to express themselves.
Facilitate Communication:
Self-energy enables a dialogue between parts, helping them to understand each other and find common ground. This communication can lead to integration and harmony within our internal system.
Encourage Healing:
By nurturing our parts with the qualities of self-energy, we create an environment conducive to healing. This process helps transform fear, shame, and pain into understanding and acceptance.
Conclusion:
Understanding self-energy in the Internal Family Systems model can be a transformative step in your healing journey. By embracing the qualities of calm, curiosity, compassion, clarity, courage, connectedness, creativity, and confidence, you empower yourself to engage with your internal parts in a nurturing way.
Whether you are a current client, a past client, or someone exploring the possibility of therapy, remember that the path to self-discovery is filled with hope. You have within you the capacity for healing, and by connecting with your self-energy, you can foster a deeper understanding and acceptance of yourself.
If you’re interested in exploring this further, I invite you to reach out. Together, we can navigate the landscape of your internal world and discover the strength that lies within.
About our Scarsdale EDMR Grief Therapist Annabella Lipson
Annabella Lipson is a Licensed Mental Health Counselor at Peaceful Living Mental Health Counseling in Scarsdale, NY.
She enjoys working with young adults & adults who are dealing with grief, constant sadness, anxiety, PTSD and other heavy emotions that make it difficult to enjoy the present moment.
Annabella has an innate ability to make her clients feel comforted and cared for as they confront their grief and loss. She incorporates a combination of Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT), EMDR Therapy, Ego-state Interventions and Mindfulness practices in her counseling sessions.
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