Steven Schilling, MHC - LP (New York)
CBT Therapy, Couples Therapy, and Addiction Support for Teens, Adults, and Couples
In-Person and Virtual Sessions in Scarsdale, New York
​Evidence-based therapy rooted in authenticity and growth, because therapy should feel human.
I work with individuals ages 12 and up, as well as couples, drawing from Gottman training and other evidence-based approaches to help clients create meaningful, lasting change.
Clients often come to me feeling stuck in addiction, shame-spiraling, burnout, or hopeless. They may look like they’re holding it together on the outside while privately feeling overwhelmed, disconnected, or unsure of who they are underneath the pressure.
I’m not a therapist who sits back, nods endlessly, and offers no real perspective. I’m human first, and I believe authenticity matters. I laugh when something is genuinely funny, and I’m supportive, but not a pushover; I’ll tell you what I notice, offer honest feedback without sugarcoating it, and gently challenge the patterns that are no longer
serving you.
My goal is to help you feel seen, supported, safe, and empowered to make changes that actually fit your life. At the core of my work is helping you build awareness of self.
When we understand our values, we’re better able to create a life, relationships, and routines that support our wants and needs.
Who I Support
I work with:
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Individuals ages 12 and up
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Couples seeking stronger communication, connection, and repair
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Clients struggling with addiction or unhealthy coping patterns
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People caught in shame, self-criticism, or hopelessness
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People-pleasers who have difficulty setting and maintaining boundaries
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Individuals who feel disconnected from themselves, their needs, or their sense of
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Perfectionists that live in constant anxiety and self-doubt
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Many of the people I work with are tired of repeating the same patterns. They want healthier boundaries, more self-trust, stronger relationships, and a clearer sense of who they are.
How I Work
I’m not a one-size-fits-all therapist who’s endlessly reflective with no perspective. I see therapy as a collaborative partnership. Together, we identify what’s getting in the way, clarify what matters most to you, and create practical goals for change.
My work is grounded in evidence-based strategies, including Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT), mindfulness, and Gottman-informed work with couples. I believe our thoughts, emotions, and beliefs shape the way we behave, and by understanding those patterns more deeply, we can begin to shift them.
In our work together, we may focus on helping you:
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Create and stick with healthier boundaries
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Make meaning from losses, disappointments, and failures
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Build a stronger sense of self and identity
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Reduce unwanted thoughts and behaviors
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Improve emotional awareness and regulation
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Break cycles of shame, avoidance, or self-sabotage
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Strengthen communication and connection in relationships
I bring warmth, honesty, and directness into the room. That means I’ll support you, but I’ll also challenge you when needed, in a way that feels like helpful feedback rather than criticism. Therapy with me is not about perfection. It’s about becoming more aware, more aligned, and more capable of living in a way that reflects who you truly are.
What Clients Often Notice
Clients often notice that I’m genuine, engaged, and easy to connect with. They feel supported but also appreciate that I won’t dance around the scary stuff.
After a few sessions, you may begin to notice:
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More clarity about their patterns, values, and needs
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Stronger boundaries and less people-pleasing
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Reduced shame and self-defeating behaviors
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Greater confidence in making decisions
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A deeper sense of identity and self-understanding
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Healthier coping strategies and improved emotional regulation
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More honest, effective communication in their relationships
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Above all, you’ll leave therapy feeling like you have a space where you can be fully human, challenged with care, and supported as you grow.
​About Peaceful Living Mental Health Counseling
At Peaceful Living Mental Health Counseling (PLMHC), we provide trauma-informed, evidence-based therapy for children, teens, adults, and families.
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We focus on understanding your experiences through a compassionate lens, asking what happened to you, not what is wrong with you.
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Our therapists support clients with:
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Anxiety and stress
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Trauma and PTSD
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Life transitions
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Relationship challenges
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Emotional regulation and self-esteem
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We offer in-person therapy in Westchester, NY, and virtual therapy across NY, NJ, CT, and FL.
Get Started
I offer in-person therapy in Scarsdale, NY as well as virtual therapy for residents across New York, making care accessible whether you prefer face-to-face sessions or the flexibility of online therapy.
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I currently provide evening and weekend availability, which can be especially helpful for working professionals, students, and busy schedules.
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My fee is $205 per 45-minute session. This rate reflects high-quality, evidence-based care while offering a more accessible option compared to many in-person therapists in Westchester.
If you are looking for a therapist in Scarsdale for anxiety, addiction, burnout, relationship challenges, or identity work, I invite you to reach out.
You do not have to navigate this alone.
