Why do I feel guilty after setting a healthy boundary?

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Congratulations! If you’re reading this you have probably started working on setting healthy boundaries in your life. You’re probably also reading this because this new journey to developing healthier relationships has been leaving you with an impending sense of guilt. I see you, and I hear you, and I am here to remind you that it is all part of the process.

But why do I feel so guilty?!:

1. You’re going against what comes naturally to you.

Let me guess, you may have always been that person to work an extra shift on your day off because your boss needs an extra hand (even though you haven’t had a day off in 6 days). You may be that person that instead of sleeping in on your day off agrees to drive your friend to the airport at 4AM (even though you haven’t had a good nights sleep in 5 days). Don’t get me wrong, being a helpful employee and a supportive friend are all great qualities. It is when these behaviors take away from your self-care needs and your values that boundaries are necessary. Just because you say no to your bosses request t